Question: My child is starting middle school. I am so nervous considering how much more responsibility he has to take on. Does preparing a child for back to school depend on the stage they are in for example- entering elementary, middle school and/or high school?
Dr. Olejak: Nervous About Responsibility,
Your question reminds me of Job 3:25 “What I always feared has happened to me. What I dreaded has come true.” In metaphysical circles there is a concept called the law of attraction. As parents we sometimes make the mistake of viewing our children through the lens of our past instead of seeing them as the blank slate they are. Without realizing it we can project our fears, concerns and worries onto our kids.
In our house we never prepared the kids for the upcoming academic year. My philosophy was that summer is for fun and when it comes time to knuckle down that’s when we’ll roll up our sleeves and get to work. That’s not to say we did not set clear expectations for performance and my wife and I wanted results when report cards time came around. No results meant grounded until things turned around. We made a conscious choice not to micromanage. We made it clear what we expected and what the consequences would be if those expectations were not met.
As to prep for the different stages of school – I would give your child all the tools they need and remain involved. Ask questions, be in communication with the teachers, and above all set a regular schedule where you check in with homework and projects.
Elementary school concerns are few. Mainly supporting the child through separation anxiety and learning to be with other kids.
Middle school is a little more complex. More freedom means more choices. This stage is really about complex social behavior and learning executive skills.
High school is about independence and trust. For parents that means hands-off, but awareness from afar.
The one thing you must keep in mind to gain perspective is that your kid is going to make mistakes. They may say inappropriate things that have their peer group ostracize them for a while. They may ignore their school calendar and miss project deadlines and they are going to fail at times. The good news is they are also going to get lots of things right, win prizes and succeed in lots of areas.
And that is called growing up.
For the kids, immune support is essential as all the kids (and germs) gather in one place. For that The Happy Immunity Kit is your best defense.
For parents who witness this education scenario playing out – there is always Loving Energy to support the adrenals and bring you comfort during the anxious moments.
 Elementary Prep: http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_Preparing_School_3/?page=2  Middle School Prep: http://www.education.com/magazine/article/kids-prepare-middle-high-school/  High School Prep: http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_Preparing_Your_7/?page=2